The word hero is one that is brandished about far too often in our society. We apply it to anyone and everyone, and we use it far too lightly.
Our national sports stars are frequently referred to as heroes. Cricketers, footballers, ruby players are all given welcomes fit for a hero when they return from competitions. They are great athletes yes, but are they heroes? In the true sense of the word, no they aren’t.
A true hero is a rare being, described in the dictionary as a “man [or woman] of distinguished courage or ability, admired for their brave deeds and noble qualities”. These are people who we not come across every day.
However, last week I met someone who fits that exact criteria, someone who I am privileged to have met because they are a real life hero.
Fijian-born Derek Derenalagi came over from his homeland at the age of 25 to join the British Army, just as his ancestors who fought in the Second World War had done before him.
An active man and keen rugby player, Derek was also a member of Staines rugby club, having previously played the sport to premier league level in Fiji, and played for the Armed Forces team.
But as so many soldiers from across the country have done, in 2007 a 32-year-old Derek left behind his wife and daughter in the UK for a six month tour of Afghanistan, with his regiment, 2 Mercian.
And as so many other men and women have done before him, Derek did not return as the husband and father that waved his family goodbye at the airport. He was to return without his legs.
Whilst on a routine patrol in Southern Helmand the vehicle carrying Derek and his fellow soldiers hit a landmine, throwing him metres from the car.
On the scene Derek was presumed dead, but after receiving medical attention he was flown immediately to the UK, where he woke up from a coma 8 days later.
His wife Ana was there to greet him. Derek recounts the story of when he regained consciousness he told her he wanted to go to the toilet, and he didn’t understand why he couldn’t because he could still feel what he later found to be phantom pain in his legs and feet.
“She took a picture of me because she couldn’t carry on explaining. There were tears in her eyes. And when I saw the picture I couldn’t speak, I was lost for words.”
Derek had undergone a double above knee amputation on his legs. Something which was inevitably going to change the life of the rugby loving soldier.
However Derek’s story is so inspiring because of the way he acted next. Instead of letting his life be overcome by the devastating injury, which no-one would have blamed him for, losing his legs has been nothing but a positive force in Derek’s life.
A devout Christian, Derek and wife Ana’s faith has enabled them to start again with their life and get as much out of it as possible.
He told me: “I don’t blame anyone because I was doing the job that I loved. I don’t have any bad feeling towards anyone. I am just happy that I am alive today.
“I just thank God that I am alive today and I want to encourage injured soldiers and also those who have been born disabled to push on, there is more to life than to complain.”
Indeed Derek has become an inspiration to others in a similar situation to his. Learning to walk, and run, again on futuristic metal prosthetic legs, Derek is now hoping to compete for Great Britain at the 2012 Paralympics.
Due to his natural athletic prowess from his rugby background, Derek was selected by services charity Help for Heroes to go to train at the Olympic Centre in San Diego, to assess his potential as a future Paralympian.
He is now hoping he will be good enough to represent Team GB in the shotput, discus and javelin come London 2012. And having already broken the British record for shotput I wouldn’t put it past him.
Derek is also an ambassador for Help For Heroes, being one of the first to benefit from the charity when it started.
When I met him he was promoting the St Georges Day rugby game at Twickenham between London Wasps and Bath, the proceeds of which go to Help For Heroes, alongside rugby stars Phil Vickery and Lawrence Dallaglio.
Lawrence put it best himself acknowledging that he, and others from his sport are often called heroes, but stating that the real hero and inspiration to us all was sat next to him in Derek Derenalagi.
If we have learnt nothing from the furore over former England captain John Terry over the last few days it is that are sports stars may be good at what they do on the pitch, but they are no role models for the way young people should live their lives off it. And for that we should look elsewhere.
We all moan about our lives. About not having enough money, enough time, enough opportunities to do the things we want to do.
No-one is perfect but someone who can make the most out of life after having it all but pulled away is pretty close.
As his wife says: “I can vouch that he has never said anything negative about losing his legs. He has just accepted his injury and he has never complained and for him it has just been a positive outlook from that day on till now.”
This is the kind of man who should be held up as a role model to society. And one who we should all be proud to call a hero.





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